Sometimes churches don't grow because the people there seem scary...
When God speaks to humans he often uses images they are familiar with so they will understand him. When he speaks of spiritual things he often uses analogies with commonly understood activities within the local culture. Faith is compared to the mustard seed, Jesus to a foundation, and resisting the devil is called spiritual warfare. There are many ways to resist the devil. One can excersize trust, forgiveness, or generosity in the face of mistrust, hate, rejection, or even outright persecution by others. There need not neccessarily be any actual violence. It is SPIRITUAL warfare.
Unfortunately, when christians speak among themselves, they often use terms such as this that outsiders do not understand. I have encountered those who thought poorly of another who had used the term (spiritual warfare), thinking him a confrontational person out on a crusade to aggressively evangelize the unbeleivers and skeptics. This term has been the source of much misunderstanding.
Now to be fair, there have been cases of overzealous crusaders (and of course, the actual crusades fought with the muslims 1095AD-1291AD), but the bible makes it clear: "we fight not flesh and blood, but the principalities and powers of the air" - Ephesians 6:12
So remember, don't be too quick to judge. Someone who seems scary might have been misunderstood, and someone who seems cold to you might have misunderstood you.
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